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Clothing Exchange
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"Mom, It's snowing! My boots don't fit anymore!"
"Mom! My snow pants are too tight!"
"Mom, these pants don't fit me any more. I need new ones."
All-too-familiar phrases. My children never stay one size long enough to
outwear their things. They are constantly growing, even though we have
threatened to feed them only once a day.
In our family with four children, clothes are always in demand. To
accommodate the needs of everyone – including my bank account – I have to
be thrifty and highly organized. I buy only secondhand clothes, and I
accept all offers of free clothing. I also encourage aunts, uncles and
grandparents to always buy underwear and socks for birthdays and Christmas.
All unused clothing goes into storage for the next child.
I try to limit my trips to "the closet" to four times a year. "The closet"
is in the back corner of our basement. Two grown men could fit lying down
foot to foot. It is as high as the ceiling and stands back in the darkest
corner like something out of a horror movie, waiting to devour its next
victim. Without a doubt, it is my least favorite place to be.
Inside are boxes stacked on more boxes filled with coats, boots, mittens,
hats and clothes to fit almost any size imaginable. If I dyed everything
green I could outfit a small army and have enough left over for their
families.
As a season shows signs of changing, I pluck up my courage and venture down
to the abyss. I put as many lights on as possible because (a) I hate
basements, and (b) bright lights usually scare away bugs. Doors opened and
sleeves rolled up, I plunge into the closet and drag boxes out one at a
time. Each must be opened and inspected. Anything that might fit a child
this season is thrown in a pile. Each box is rearranged and put back full.
It is always a satisfying feeling to look at the closet and see it neatly
organized – and not overflowing.
When I turn around, the dream is shattered. I am confronted with a clothing
mountain. A huge pile has accumulated and the children are almost due home
from school. Past years have taught me that it's hopeless to try to hide what I
have been doing. As they race downstairs, I just stand back and watch the
fun begin.
Content that they'll be busy for at least an hour, I go upstairs to start
step two. Each closet and dresser must be sorted through to eliminate
too-small sizes and make room for new clothes. Oblivious to the noises
emanating from the basement, I begin to throw clothes over my shoulder.
Before long, I have another pile in the hall upstairs. For a short time,
the dressers close properly, and I have found all the dirty underwear and
socks stuffed in the corners of their closets. Four dressers are organized
and clean. Empty – but clean.
As suppertime approaches, I make my way over the clothes and head for the
kitchen. As usual, the job is too big for one day, and I call it quits.
Soon they will tire of the basement frolic, and I can send them upstairs to
begin again. Four times a year, I am spared entertaining anyone. The
clothes will do it for me.
Tomorrow, I will organize the mess. Each child will be given a pile of
clothes to try on (in their respective sizes this time). After we decide
what is staying out and what is going back in, I can start stuffing things
back into the closet. Every possibility for the next three months must be
thought of before I close the doors to the closet. Once they are closed,
they will remain closed until next season. Only one thing on earth can make
me open the doors early.
"Julia, I have some clothes for the kids – if you think you could use them."
Could I use them? Of course I could. I'll invite my friend over for tea,
thankful she thought of us and very happy to add to our collection.
"Wow, Mom! Can we try it on?" I shrug my shoulders. They need no
encouragement to try "new" things on. I slump down on the stairs and watch
what tickles their fancy. My daughter loves to put things on her head so
everything is tried there first. My youngest son likes to layer things, and
he ends up looking like the Michelin Man very quickly. My second oldest son
likes pink, and nothing pink is left alone. My oldest just lunges in and
tries everything on.
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